You have a one year old, I'm confused about at what point the 19 lbs was expected to disappear? Did you breast feed or bottle feed? Dieting is a no no during breast feeding and even bottle feeding the body is physiologically protective, being a mom is complicated, in nature's way. I think there's a genetic predisposition to stretch marks. Mine went around to my kidneys, of all places [emoji54] [emoji15]

Are you concerned that there's a porn addiction? Aside from your body image concerns, is he ignoring you? Is he ignoring the baby? Does he demean you, in any way? Is he disrespectful to you? Are there relationship struggles, arguments? Jealousy? I'm just tossing out characteristics of an unhappy marriage that I'm familiar with that involves porn viewing. I could give another, more healthy relationship, adoration, respect, lots of communication, butt slapping on passing that was playful and also involved some pornography, oh and comfort with ageing bodies, men grow older, too, fwiw.

I don't know. It's hard becoming a mom, the body does change. I've had three. I'm a lot thinner and more in shape than I have ever been. I get the, "you have how many?" Comment with look, all the time. Motherhood isn't supposed to zap your self image, that's why the questions about what's going on between the two of you.