(((((((((((((((Terry)))))))))))))))))))

wow - kind of crazy...but you could almost be my dad! he's 65, retired, and married to my mom...an alcoholic!

i'm very sorry you're feeling such pain....and i'm especially sorry for your loss (it must make it sxtremely hard him being your twin! but i do believe he's in heaven and you will see him again!)

i can't give much advice on how to deal with your wife's alcoholism...my dad hasn't seemed to figure that out either. i do think going to Al-Anon would be a good idea...especially if you're not able to see a therapist.

don't underestimate your kids! you say "I'm probably asking too much for them to worry about how I'm doing" ... it is hard sometimes that my dad relies on me to help him with my mom... it's hard emotionally...but i love my dad and WANT to help him.

don't give up on having close ties with your grandkids either...you'll just have to make a special effort!! my grandfathers died before i was three...so i didn't have a grandpa! you're an important part of thier lives! write to them and send them cards...email or call when you can...send them a little treat on their birthday (just to show you remember...nothing expensive or fancy), be sure to send each of them separate holiday cards. don't give up on your grandkids just because they moved away!!!!! my grandma and i used to write each other when i was in elementary school - i LOVED getting something in the mail....i still have her letters all these years later!

well...guess i rambled on long enough!!!! take care!! and keep posting!