Dear T1, something my tutor said in class today related strongly to what went wrong in therapy between us, and I felt validated because I realise your behaviour was incongruent and lacked empathy. I don't doubt you didn't mean to hurt me and you had my best interests at heart, but you did hurt me. And I feel like I need to allow myself to be angry with you.
I also need to talk to T2 about what I need from him. I told him early on in therapy I didn't want him to criticise you, but I sometimes cant talk to him because I feel like he goes the other way and defends you. I don't want that either. I just want my experiences validated. My feelings validated. I need to feel its OK to be frustrated about what happened and mourn the good parts too. I am still confused about what happened between us and it still hurts.