Wow...we could be the same person! I have a husband who sounds just like your wife; self-deprecating, low self-esteem, negative thoughts, etc...

He recently went to his Dr. and is now seeking help for depression. That's good, right? Well, yes. But now that it is an official diagnosis, it is stuck in his head and seems to have made things worse. I am hoping this is temporary and that once treatment has begun (we go to the center Monday) things will improve.

I feel your angst. It is SO difficult being the only parent who is truly present and "in the moment" I sometimes feel like I am doing this by myself, then resent him for not being involved.

((((hugs))))