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Default Oct 19, 2015 at 08:53 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Zorja View Post
Thank you for replying.

I second guess my feelings. I've been cycling from sadness, anger, guilt to confusion. I don't want him to be stuck in a job that he's not happy in-- he said the he didn't tell me because he knew I wouldn't agree to him stepping down. He said he was in a really bad place and it had to happen. He said that any time he tried to talk about it I just suggested finding another job- and that wasn't what he wanted. He didn't want to work 40 hours a week.

He thinks he can supplement his income with his art. I don't think it's possible. I think it can give us a boost on occasion but It's not going to make up the hours lost. Which in his eyes-- that means I'm not believing in him.

When we first talked about this I suggested trying the market out first-- setting up a booth on some weekend and see if we can get anything to sell. He said his job sapped all of his energy and he wasn't able to do that. He thinks I should just believe in him and believe this can work... That feels like a guilt trip to me.
Been there, done that with accusations of not being supportive. I'm pragmatic and it didn't even affect my income. Sounds like you offered a viable suggestion with weekend tables. Starving artists aren't called starving without just cause, imo. I don't believe for one moment that you aren't supportive, reality does bite at times. And this does affect you financially. It's irresponsible of him.
I wish there was a better expression than a guilt trip. It's certainly projection.
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