I clipped this earlier, in regards to my been there, done that..not sure if you can relate, but here goes...

"*If the narcissist does not want to keep a promise and you become upset, your feelings*won’t be*validated, there will be no apology or*show of empathy. Instead,*the narcissist will vilify you*for being upset and blame you*for your lack of empathy*for not considering that they may have had a bad day. You will*be labeled as selfish and demanding for expecting the poor narcissist to*honor his/her word like a normal adult. However, if you have a bad day, don’t expect to*receive the same concessions."
http://relationshipedia.me/2015/06/1...ntrol-tactics/