Dear MC,
I really really hope my reading of a story you told yesterday and of my interpretation of T's reaction today when I asked her about it was wrong. Because otherwise, your wife is the person living in your home who needs 24-hour care. I had been assuming, since learning of your need for a home health aide, that it was an elderly parent, but this little thing in the back of my mind wondered if it was your wife. Because you share personal stuff talk about your kids all the time and some stuff with siblings, but rarely about her. I didn't want to pry before back when you had to keep canceling. And I'm sorry if it seems like I'm prying now, because T said she'd talk to you about whether she could tell me (or if you would). And she said she'd worry it would have some sort of impact on me therapeutically. But I feel like, just knowing what's really going on would probably be better than all things I imagine in my head.

I just hope I'm wrong because you're still relatively young, and you help and care so much about other people (including me), that I don't want you to have to be dealing with this. I'm not sure why I'm so emotional about this--I guess it's just because I love you and care about you, so I don't want you to be sad or suffering.

But if you don't want to share what's going on, then I respect that and understand...