Being a recovering alcoholic myself, I have to tell you everyone who's posted above is correct. Unfortunately, she'll have to hit her own bottom and see for herself that she has a problem. Recovery is for people who want it, not for people who need it, sadly. I know for me, if anyone made a comment about my drinking, it would only push me farther into the bottle. I had to realize for myself that I wanted to quit.

She may never realize it. Many go out and die after loosing everything. Its the sad truth about alcoholism. Its cunning, baffling and powerful. Alanon is a great group, as Split suggested. Its for the people we alcoholics hurt. If she won't get into recovery, it might be helpful for you to get into your own recovery. She might even see then how her alcoholism is affecting those she loves.