Talked about this with my doc today and we said a lot of stuff. He suggestd the old write a letter trick.

The bit about her stepdad really hurts. She worships him and felt my leaving him was an injustice. Of course, at 22 she hadn't lived with us since she was 17 and so wasn't around to witness the abuse, the lies, the infidelities. I've never set her straight on that. I always hoped she would figure it out for herself. Moving his girlfriend in weeks after I left should have been an indicator. Hanging out with no one over the age of 25 should have been an indicator, etc, etc. It hurts because she too had to do with out because of his stingyness. The fact that he spends wild amounts of money now should be something I would think she too would resent. And finally, she and his girlfriend are friends.

So much for honouring and respecting your mother.