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Originally Posted by StbGuy
I don't quite follow why you are not allowed to be with this girl. How did you guys make out and spend the night together when you're not supposed to be together?
If I were you I would consider if there is truly love and interest from her side. This sounds all too familiar like someone using an excuse to try and mask their true feelings about someone with autism/Asperger's.
She's already let slip that this makes her feel uncomfortable. Yet, she didn't mind spending the night with you and making out. Sounds like somewhere something is not adding up.
I was in love with a girl too once, but I had to realize I was in love with what I believed she was, not who she truly was. I saw an amazing lovable girl, whilst in reality she is a man-chaser and too shallow for a solid relationship, which I figured out eventually when I confessed I loved her and she totally cracked up on me. I figured her out by thinking back to her actions, her words, the conversations we had, and the type of guy she dated who was in our class.
I've been there. People lie. But, the truth is hidden in plain sight. Be rational and logical and take note of little things she says and does. Therein you will find truth and a wealth of information. Don't be blind like I was!
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She knew that it was forbidden to do such a thing in her position, but she continued anyway, because of "perfect storm" conditions. I know for a fact she isn't trying to hurt me, just that she is alarmed by my obsession with her. Also, she knows that if I become too attached to her, then I'll be left in pieces when she leaves this year (she's a senior, remember). There were never any promises of a relationship from her, in fact she mentioned several times during that night that it felt so wrong to her, but I think passion overwhelmed her. So, I can understand her perspective and she can somewhat understand mine, but there's the fundamental issue of how much attachment is too much, especially in a now non-romantic relationship.