My cousin is in a relationship with a non-ADD'er and i am concerned for him as he doesn't think the relationship is bad. He has lost friends who told him his girlfriend isn't right for him. He gets defensive whenever someone airs their opinion about the relationship.

I recently texted him saying so and so are saying this about your relationship why do you think that is? And are you okay with that? But all i got was a heated argumentative response. His mother text me often saying how she didn't like her, he can do better and that after seeing her nearly everyday for a year didn't make her like his girlfriend more infact it only made it worse.

I then got a message from his girlfriend having a go at me for trying to break them up, lying to him, making his family hate her etc. Basically blaming me for everything, this lead my cousin to believe we were all jealous and against him..... Even his own mother... Crazy right? Anyway i had enough of this cause it was the 5/6th time she had a go at me so i showed her the texts that his mum sent me saying how she thinks he can do better etc etc.

I feel so guilty for how i acted cause i ended up really hurting my cousin just trying to show him the truth. He won't speak to me and said i was dead to him... So i don't know what i can do to have him back in my life... He is family so i can't believe he put her before his own family.

Anywho my question is does ADHD make it harder for people to let things go? If you deal with drama on a daily basis is it easy to push people away once they make you feel a certain way you don't like feeling? Does it take longer for ADHD'ers to forgive people?

Thanks

Claire