Thank you for responding, sorry i didn't make it clear why we have issues with her. The main one is that she has turned his friends against him.. She's made him believe that everyone is against him. She wants him all to herself so she doesn't enable him to have a life other than with her. Not only does she expect him to spend 24/7 with her or talking to her but she also gets jealous if anyone else spends time with him. She looks at everyone as a threat and is becoming his everything (literally) if he hasn't got her he won't have many people that aren't family as she pushed them away arguing and accusing them of being jealous or misjudging her.

We all feel that although he is happy he is sacraficing a lot just to keep the relationship a float. It then makes me wonder if he pushes people away as part of a defence mechanism of ADHD or because he is scared of losing her as she is pretty much all he has. When numerous people say the same thing chances are it's because something is wrong. I understand it might not have anything to do with ADHD but if it does it may explain his actions and why he is so quick to get defensive, push people away and not speak to people who disagree with him.

I want to help him but i don't know how, if ADHD has a part to play at least we could work on that aspect of it.

Thanks again

Claire