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Old Oct 21, 2015, 05:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Zorja View Post
We've had money issues in the past. We both worked at the same company that closed down due to bankruptcy. We've been struggling but I thought things were getting better for us.
Would you say this was a result of an emotional crisis due to significant loss? Which can test one's purpose in life. Was there any leave of absence options with the current employer? Was counseling ever an option? How long is he giving himself, to see results?
Going through a financial hardship such as a layoff doesn't mean a pattern of financial instability, like I was curious if existed. When about to marry, my home experienced the first wave of recessions during the new millennium. My then husband did find work, but felt a bit demeaning as it was different than what he was accustomed to, and as he turned 40 with a baby on the way, he turned in his keys. Was then able to immediately regain them and stayed for the next twelve years. A one year mark on a job that replaced one that he stayed at fifteen years prior with major life changes about to incur was a milestone. Yet, because he stayed, granted this summer another upheaval after a major buyout made official in April, he brings a skillset to his new employer that he'd never have had if not for pushing through that hurdle.
I've never once felt like I was the main financial provider with him in the picture, nor would he hear of such a thing.
Thanks for this!
Zorja