gostryter, those are some very helpful hints. I shall definately try them. I think my h doesn't really understand because I'm going through therapy for child abuse and that was a long time ago and he doesn't undersand why I can't just "let it go". I never even knew I was depressed until I finally went to T because it was either that or something really bad.

Thank you for the support and for caring. It does help to be able to talk to someone. To know someone is out there.

SBD