Hi!

I am 26 and I don't consider myself as having a lot of close friends.

My best friend is my husband who I have been with since high school and he is honestly the only person I have ever fully clicked with and like spending lots of time with. Sometimes i feel insecure about this because a lot of people I know don't spend this much time just with their spouse.

I have 3 or 4 other friends who I catch up with once a week. These are the types of people who share similar values with me and are fairly self-sufficient. We don't rely on each other for too much, we purely catch up to share what we have been up to and to have a laugh etc. I guess you could say its low maintenance friendships.

There are quite a few acquaintance type friends who I occasionally see but sort of distance myself from. They are the type of people who aren't very self-aware and hide behind the facade of trying to impress everybody by gossiping, *****ing, being fake and being very obsessed with their physical image. So its not in line with my values and aspirations to be around them too much and i tend to say no a lot when i am invited to things with them.

So it makes sense for me to only have a few close friends who I trust, feel comfortable around and don't feel compelled to catch up with all the time but I guess I just have this nagging feeling that sometimes I'm missing out by not having super close sisterly type friendships.

I suppose when i check face book every now and then (which i am trying to do less and less), I see all the photos of my 'acquaintances' hanging out and having a great time and I feel like I have missed out. Its like i feel like inferior for it.


So i'd love some of your thoughts on the following questions:

1) Should I be trying to have more friends? (obviously more friends with similar values)

2) Or is it a sign of independence if I don't feel like I need to be around friends all the time?

3) Is my Fear of missing out more likely a reaction to my self-esteem issues and worrying what others think of me?

4) Should my husband and I be spending more time apart? Ie. will spending so much time together effect our relationship in the long term?

5) Is it rude of me to avoid those 'acquaintance' type friends even though deep down I know they have the potential to be a really good person? Am i a bad person for not making more of an effort with them?

Any comments would be great, its really been bothering me lately and
I want to straighten this out in my head once and for all!!!