I think you just have to leave him be for now, distance yourself until he comes down, hopefully he wont' crash while in hospital, because then you'll have a depressed husband.

I've never been full blown manic, but even hypo, I'm idk, different. My mouth has no filter, I say whatever comes to mind, I get agitated, the sound of your breathing alone can literally set me off. Once during a really bad episode I was delusional though, and accused my BF of wanting me (his GF) to be his best man in his future wedding to a woman he would meet crossing the street in the next week.

So no, what we say might be what we are thinking, but we are not always thinking with our rational mind. especially not within an episode.

The fact that he's still making grandiose plans shows he's nowhere near baseline, severe hypo maybe, or mildly manic, but nowhere near your baseline husband.

Remember that while this affects you directly, it really isn't about you, so don't own it, don't take it upon yourself and make it about you.

Its about him being sick and needing help, needing to land safely and seeing his wife is still on the ground waiting for him.

I know you didn't knowingly sign up for this when you got married, it was a hidden clause under "for better or worse", but remember, we didn't sign up for it either, we just got dealt a really shytti hand of cards, and have to learn how to play as best we can.