Terry, the best of luck with your life. The others are right, you deserve and do needed to be taken care of...this doesnt mean you neglect your wife, but in order to take care of her, you MUST take care of yourself first.

If you went to a doctor for a cold and he kept coughing on you and wiping his nose on your shirt, would you accept his treatment? No...so, first, you must help yourself, believe in yourself before you can help your wife...

With your kids, while it does suck (my brother, the only one I have living lives in Washington State while I live in Missouri)...is there a way you can write your daughter or email her, etc. to stay closer in touch?

Best...