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Originally Posted by Rose76
Eight years is a long time to be together. I take it you two live together. Is not being married a choice you've both made, or is getting married something that one of you is more reluctant to do than the other.
I'm not judging you, as I have a significant other of over 30 years friendship, and I've never opted for marriage. I'm just wondering if not being married is part of a larger pattern of one of you not wanting full commitment. (In my own case, I did not want to be financially responsible for my s.o., as he was not all that financially stable or responsible.)
Does this reduction in his income mean you have to subsidize him? I would be disturbed to have that happen to me.
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We're not interested in getting married but we consider each other life partners. It doesn't have anything to do with lack of commitment or financial issues.
We need both incomes to pay the bills and for groceries, etc. However, I think we will be okay if we stay tight on our budget. I'm okay with this right now. I was more upset with how everything was handled. I've had a few days for all of this to sink in a little better and the shock is starting to wear off.
I don't want him to be miserable. If he needs to take a step back and get his bearings-- I'll be there for him. It's possible I'm too forgiving. I'm not sure but I feel like he would be there for me if I was in a crisis.