I don't know what to do...
So here's the deal. I have always been a people pleaser. I have felt the need to makeup for the choices some of my siblings have made. I just want everyone to be happy. For a long time I was so centered around making everyone else happy that I neglected myself and became so miserable. I became very depressed and attempted suicide (my parents still don't know about this, I'm to ashamed to tell them/ I can't give them something else to worry about). After all of this I did what I thought would be best for all of us. I packed up, and moved to a college that was 4 hours away ( I of course did all of this with my parents blessing). It's been 4 years, I see my family once a month, I have a job that I adore, and I'm getting married in less than two weeks.
Now here's my problem. My mother, whom I love and cheris, really wants me to move back to her area. Where I am living now, and where we are thinking of settle down is more of a poverty area than where my parents live. I understand that my mom wants the best for me financially and that she wants me to move up there but she is being really crazy about it. Any time I talk about looking at a house down here she says that she doesn't think I'm making a wise decision to move to such a poverty ares, and, I think it's because his family lives here, that I need to make my choices about ever seeing my family. She keeps sending my fiance information about getting a job where my dad works, and that they will pay for him to have gas up to there so he can interview. She went so far as to make my dad think that my fiance had contacted her about getting a job up there, so he would talk to his bosses, when he had never said anything about it she just randomly sent him 6 pages of text messages on how working up near them is the best decision he can make. Both of us are getting tired of this, and I've explained over and over again how we are staying here and I do love them, this is just what's best for us. I just need someone to tell me what I'm supposed to do before I go insane.