Sorry nothing on the first two...though google "STEPPS"...first one up should be about the emotional and behavior training class geared toward BPD...I'm starting one next Tuesday...

STEPPS Basic Skills Group Program

The Basic Skills Program consists of 20 weekly meetings of two hours each. Each week is organized around a skill that is the focus of the session. Some skills require more than one weekly session to teach. The skills include:

Distancing
Communicating
Challenging
Distracting
Managing Problems
Setting Goals
Eating
Sleeping
Exercise
Leisure
Physical Health
Abuse Avoidance
Relationship Management

I know you were looking for books...the books I read on BPD at least haven't been that helpful as they don't have anything like a how to approach...generally work books are highly technical and geared to instructions/therapists to basically do the above...