Hello Sabau -- I am so sorry that you have to do this. Personally, I hate confrontation, and I will do almost anything to avoid it. You are brave to face this -- but the stakes are high, your grandson's life.

I hope his mother will wake up. When I was deep in my alcohol addiction and living with my mother in my 30s (no kids, just a dog whom I did take very good care of; I was being self-destructive but not irresponsible) -- one morning after I came out of room following a drinking binge, she just looked at me sadly and said, "Don't you see what you're doing to yourself?"

It was 'nuff said and a powerful intervention. It will not be enough in this case, because there is a young child involved.

Best wishes, Sabau. I know you will handle it just right.