Well, they are probably different for everyone, and I think there are different levels for me too. The most common is that something will set me off (make me scared, mad, embarrassed, etc.), and then I will be irritable. Even little things will get to me then. Little things can build up for hours. Then sometimes I will blow up.

I know for sure I am in some kind of emotional flashback (looking back) when I am so emotional that I can't speak, or can speak well, and have a hard time putting what I am feeling or what I need into words.

It is a lot like part way through an argument, when you can't remember what it is about, but you are still sure you are right and need to win.

Not sure if that helps, but you know more about me now.