The changes in accent and dress could also be signs that she is not happy with who she is or things in her life, and she feels a need to change things. Sometimes if we feel like we have little control over things, we will change anything that we can, in order to feel like we have control over something. She may or may not be aware of what she is doing. I would expect her to be depressed, and it would be natural for a girl in her position to feel like she has lost a lot, and even to blame herself for it. She has lost her father, and even if that is in her best interests, she will need to mourn. It is even harder that she has lost the image of her father as a good and caring person who she could trust to protect her and look after her best interests. She does have a mother who remains all of that, and that is very important, but it could be very hard for her to trust, or to feel like she can discern who she can trust now. She may have also lost her home, her friends, the familiarity of her environment, and other things for which she will need to mourn.

Does your daughter see the counselor regularly? I'm not clear on why the counselor recommended a psychiatrist, unless she believes that medication might help. Was the counselor able to make a specific referral? If you do take her to a psychiatrist, keep in mind that medication can help with symptoms like depression, but your daughter still needs counseling to learn coping skills and deal with what has happened to her. Psychiatrists don't normally do psychological testing. I wonder if a psychologist, who does testing, might be more helpful.

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