I changed my name, thinking no big deal, plus at the time was estranged from my father. A couple of years after divorce, I changed it back. That's been a difficult change, until I completely took over health insurance this month. Can be a tad confusing with the fact that my children don't share my last name, but it's not confusing to them. It's a big decision, in its own way. It's a strange type of change in identity, no surprise it creates inner conflict.