I kept my married name despite the fact that I have been not married that long and got divorced over 20 years ago. I have no connection to my maiden name but do identify with my married name. Don't know why. Might something to do with being not that close to my parents. I mean we are good but not much emotional closeness. After divorce I didn't want that name back.

My daughter is close to both me and her dad and is comfortable keeping her maiden name. She says their kids will have hyphenated last name.

Yea I think changing name changes identity. For me not having my parents name signified so called " leaving the house".

I never remarried but if I will I will take his name ( obviously I can't keep ex's name lol) but I know I'll feel weird as I spend most of my adult life from 20 to 50 under my ex's last name .

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