I agree with mj here, you did the right thing in sending the letter. At the very least, you gave the wife to be the option of looking into his past to see if this is true. But don't be surprised if your letter goes completely ignored. Even in this day and age, many families choose to ignore this horrible act and hide it away like it never took place. I was abused by my Grandfather from the age of three until I was 14. But it is never discussed among the family. In fact, whenever he is brought up in conversation, he is talked about like some kind of saint. When this happens, I just walk away.

I commend you for the love and support you are showing in this matter. But the only thing you can do is to let her know that if she should ever want to seek help, you'll be there for her. I hope and pray, as I'm sure you do, that's it's before the children have to pay a price.

My thoughts and prayers go with you,

bptoo

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."