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Originally Posted by hvert
So my boyfriend brought up the kids thing again this morning: 'So that was a no on kids?'
I brought up the idea I had that he only wanted them because he wanted a legacy/thought he was supposed to, and he corrected that idea of mine and went into more detail. I still don't really get why he wants kids, though. Maybe it is more appropriate to say that I don't think he really understands what it is like to take care of kids, which is probably unfair. I am thinking of all the work/logistical aspects and assume that he is not thinking about those because he has never dealt with them.
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What did he say when he correct you? Did it make any sense, or was it just a lot of talking?
I'm sort of curious about whether he's mentioned what made him change his mind. It sounds like you guys were, originally, on the same page about kids... but that something's changed for him. You thought it was the realization that he wants to leave a legacy (which makes sense, even if it's not a great reason to procreate), but if that's not it... I wonder what it is?
I agree that kids are a ton of work, and that might not be something he understands (I get the impression that a lot of people don't understand that until they have them!). Does he ever watch his nieces/nephews? Or pet sit? Just curious if he has any baseline to build off of here...