What would you do if your lady completely lost her libido?

I am 53 and have had every test, and the fact is, this has happened to me simply because of my age. I can still have and enjoy sex, I just don't have 'that feeling' anymore.

This has created a nightmare in my marriage. First my husband takes it personally. He thinks I no longer find him desirable - which couldn't be further from the truth. I find him just as desirable as I did the first time I laid eyes on him in 1990. I just don't have any 'incentive' to initiate sex because my body just doesn't work the way it used to. He insists that if I still find him desirable, I should initiate sex - like to the point where I feel so pressured, I just can't.

Part of the problem is sexual abuse I experienced as a child, but I am working hard with my therapist on that one.

I would love to be the kind of wife that greets her husband at the door when he comes home wearing something sexy, or better yet, nothing at all. I know it is in me to be that woman, and I don't know what's holding me back - which is what my therapist and I are trying to find out. I know part of the problem is my past (I also have PTSD), but I'm starting to wonder if his expectations are contributing to the problem.

Any advice or help anyone can offer (male or female) would be appreciated.

Thanks,

WW