I would like to say I would be accepting but the truth is I act much like your husband. I feel neglected and unwanted.

If you haven't read the five languages of love, I would recommend doing so. I am a person who responds most to touch so asexual relationships are very difficult for me. Luckily I respond to non sexual touch almost as much so perhaps if your husband is the same you can try huging. back rubs and cuddling in its place. Even with all of this I would still recommend the occasional bedroom fling.