I am considering unfriending my daughter on social media after all. Even though it's the only way I have of knowing what's happening in her life. It frightens me to see all the photos of her blasted out of her mind and it crushes me to see photos of her and her step dad and -worse- his girlfriend.

I've drafted a letter to her. It's been really hard as someone pointed out how easy it is to be passive agressive. I don't want to sound happy though about all that she is doing. I still want to express my hurt and wishes she would include me. For instance I want to say I'm happy you had a nice trip but I would have appreciated knowing about it before you left. That is - as someone pointed out - rather passive agressive. But I don't know how else to get that message across.