Yeah, it was unconditional, but I had to "kill" it. This girl I loved, I loved her unconditionally. I adored every little thing about her. To me, she was perfect.

But, I had to accept that I could never have her, because she hates me basically, to make a long story short. So, I had to find a way to stop loving her.

One way was to first numb myself completely, then I had to switch to it being conditional love, so I had to rationally sit down and look at her faults too.

The problem was I actually didn't know her that well, only knew her from what I saw for two years. I had to realize she had a life before that which could contain any number of secrets and I began analyzing my memories of the things she said and did too. I was blindly in love with her, but after numbing myself and then beginning to think back to what she said and did, suddenly those aspects began to matter and so I gradually fell out of love with her, by realizing she and I were not "in-line" with each other.

I had to do it too, because I was blaming myself for everything going wrong, while thinking she was perfect and still being hopelessly in love with her. It's only when you realize it takes two to make a relationship go sour that you then wake up out of your being in love and see things rationally. At that point, one can actually fall out of love with that person.