we all need love.

i am glad the conclusion was brought up that a mirror narcissist is just a narcissist. after all, those on the other end of the mirror became narcissists for some reason, probably by the same reason.

i think our personality styles we may be stuck with, but we have a lot of power on how we let it be expressed.

for instance, i know that there are situations where i act more borderline, or more narcissistic, or more schizoid...

keep in mind that i am using the traditional view of personality styles and not the dsm. we all have these traits. we all have different levels of them.

and these different personality styles all have strengths, too! if we rely on one style too much then it becomes a disorder... if we have self-awareness and do not go overboard with it....

some of the best leaders are leaders because they have a bit of narcissism. one counselor once told me that i need narcissism to make myself important enough to survive.

when i am really stressed out i resort to narcissism, borderline or schizoid, depending on the source of the stress.... sometimes i wish i had relied on narcissism more often, it got me a lot further! it gave me power when i was powerless.

i also looked up the online tests and they have changed since i last saw them. not a fan of this new test but i cant find the old one.

since the core of narcissism is insecurity, if you can reveal your insecurities (the biggest fear of a narcissist), then you may recover. but dont get too set on putting yourself in a box using labels. everyone is screwed up on some level.

we wouldnt have these traits if they didnt serve us. appreciate yourself for doing what you could. someone who had absolutely no narcissistic qualities would not be able to function in todays western society.