A lot of sexism out giving. Too often we think of it as something we do for our pleasure rather than give pleasure to the one we love. I often do things to initiate sex with my husband even when I am not high on desire just because I love and cherish him in spite of his faults. I get a lot of good dividends of love and affection when I do not expect it in return

Twice this month I met him at the door totally naked. Neither time was I particularly in the mood but I knew that he had been frustrated with work all day and really needed to feel love. He often goes out of his way to make me feel special in return

I discovered nearly too late that successful marriage means focusing on another person's happiness not my own. In so doing I get my needs met as well
There is no one secret to solve everyone's problem but for me this worked wonders for both of our sex drives

Intercourse is not so much a commodity to promote my own pleasure, but a gift to give. About a year ago we pledged to each other that when either of us wanted sex we would agree if at all humanly possible and that we would be available for each other wherever and however.