Hi StarGazingFish: I wish I knew the answer to your question. Without going into allot of detail about myself, I can only say that my experience has been, it is a monumental task. A few trans individuals seem to be blessed with understanding & perceptive family & friends. And so these individuals' transitions go smoothly. But for many others not so blessed it can be like pulling teeth, as the saying goes. And the older you are, the more difficult it seems like it tends to be. I suppose this is because family & friends have had more years to get used to viewing you as the gender you never were.

There are undoubtedly other members, here on PC, who are in a much better position to reply to your question than I am. Hopefully some of them will do so. But, from my perspective, first of all, I think it's important to try as best you can, to not let other people's slip-ups get to you. In some cases it may just be accidental. In others, it may be intentional. But, in either case try not to let it get "under your skin", so to speak. Beyond that, I think, just keep correcting people, gently. The one's who sincerely want to get it right, eventually will. The others, over time, will in all probability go by the wayside.