the clinic wanted us to see someone else who will not recognizes us as being seperate and we wont so now we dont have anyone.

I understand how you feel about not seeing a T who won't treat you seperately, BUT can you just grin and bear it?

Go and see this T at least until you can figure out some other way to handle this.

She might be able to get you in to see a psychiatrist for your meds.

Is there another clinic in town you could go to?

Also, see if you can call and talk to your old T and ask her to please help you. She might have some ideas that would work.

As far as your mother is concerned, you just need to bite the bullet and tell her you just can't talk about him anymore, it's too upsetting.

Good luck and keep us posted.