I don't know, there's a lot to be said for having the courage to look at your flaws. Something narcissists struggle with... If a narcissist waits for love from the outside then they can continue to blame the outside world. It could be another form of waiting for approval...

Revealing and pointing out flaws with acceptance is different... Unconditional love is such a loaded term. I think we should just focus on accepting ourselves, then people will come. We have to love and accept ourselves first.