Also, as long as you get acceptance/love from people without revealing your flaws, the insecurity will only increase...eg, "if they only knew..."

We can accept each other, warts and all... And the more we focus on what we need the other person to see in us, the self centred cycle continues... The focus on approval itself can drive people away.

How do you know if you have unconditional love if you don't first reveal your flaws?