"If you want nothing to do with me, stop taking my money." I've heard that before!

It sounds like she's manipulative and controlling. I come from a similar household and it was very important to my father to be involved in my finances, whether that meant paying for my phone, my insurance, *giving* me a car (but it was in his name). Some parents want to keep their kids helpless so they'll need them. They might even complain that the kid is a freeloader or too dependent, but it's a situation of their own making, they love to play the martyr and complain while also making sure you can't sever ties with them (they must know they're terrible to be around).

I tend to agree with the social worker, too, because he/she is a third party with a lot of information. It's not like they go doling out that kind of advice to everyone. Something must be amiss.

I understand where you're at. I had that "last tie" to sever before I was free. It was the car. I had to save up money for 6 months in order to afford to buy a used one and it was torture having to wait that long.

You will be free. Just be patient with yourself. It's not you're fault you're in this position and you're taking all the necessary steps to get yourself to a better place.

It's horrible that she won't give you your space. It's just more evidence that she doesn't have appropriate boundaries and doesn't respect yours. I understand if you lose your temper with her. All I can say is, don't get physical!

I changed my phone number and blocked my father from my email. He has my address, but he lives 1900 miles away. Hasn't shown up on my doorstep yet. If you say you want to move out of state, I'd support that decision. It's a relief knowing I'll never leave the house and run into the narcissistic miser.