Thanks Pat

Well, bil finally talked to my sis tonight. It appears he is having some sort of mid-life crisis/breakdown. No excuse but at least he finally showed some emotion. They are definately getting a divorce.

He has taken full responsibility and right now is feeling extremely guilty. So, he has agreed that the house is hers - actually he said she can have everything. She asked that he wait 2 weeks at least to move out because everything is happening so fast and with her health (MS) she can't possible go through all the stuff herself. She also is going to move in on my side so that we can rent the other side.

She also said she needs his financial assistance until this all happens. He agreed, he also said he would continue to help when gone. They had a new furnace put in on their side and it comes out of one of his accounts - he agreed to continue to pay that bill. He would like to continue to have a relationship with my niece (she still does not know this is happening). He said he would have liked to continue to have a relationship with me and my sisters other children; however, he knows that it is not going to happen and he certainly understands that.

She told him he needs to tell his parents as soon as possible. He knows that they will probably rally around my sister rather than him. He also figures his siblings won't be speaking to him for awhile either.

For now, my sister is somewhat relieved that he is being accomodating and we are hoping that continues. He even indicated they could share a lawyer and expenses because it will be amicable.

I told my sister she still needs to call an attorney and see him alone to discuss all of this to get the attorney's advice. She also asked that he not see this woman until he is out of the house. He says he won't but who knows?

I have been praying daily that I would like my source to protect us and allow us to stay in this house. But even if it is not meant that we can, that my source just protects us and keeps us together. So today was actually a spark of good news in all of this.

Your continued good thoughts and comforting vibrations is so apprectiated.

Tranquility