Yes. It was. I'm so sorry. What a terrible thing to say, especially to your own wife. So yes, of course he's far from perfect. What gives him any right to expect you to be? And if you have low self-esteem, he of all people should be helping you, not putting you down like this, which will only worsen your problem, not to mention your pain. I can't understand why so many people seem full of comments like that.