I like your post because you are honest rcat. Does anyone have any ideas how I can not feel like dying when I come across my ex's former mistress for six years. This sneaky b was meeting him for coffee and expressing her concern for my kids because she had such a traumatic experience when her parents divorced. I know this because I saw a note he had tucked in his wallet from her. Actually, to be honest, I would die if I saw him with any other lady too. I still love him, I thought he would be mine forever. I have had some wonderful dates myself. I know I won't actually die, so maybe I will see him with her, have a good cry, and then carry on. It is funny what emotions are deep down inside us, even when we are acting like we are carrying on with life. I just answered myself - stop being angry about things that are past.