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Originally Posted by jo_thorne
If he has a good relationship with his wife, that's very good.
I totally get what you mean about not having a choice about working closely with him. I've been in that situation. I'm sorry to say that I once dated someone that I worked that closely with and then when it ended badly, we still had to spend 10-15 hours a week sitting together doing intellectually demanding work. (where's the face palm emoticon?)
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If I take him at face value, he has an incredibly good relationship with her.
And yeah, even if he were single, it would be a big decision to get involved given what we do. People who have the same type of work relationship we do who've become romantic have had some trouble, as in one of them has usually been pressured to find work elsewhere. And there is a level of trust that has to be there for our respective roles; he has to trust me, and I have to trust him or we can't do our jobs effectively. And since I'm going to be new at my job (and he's experienced at his), I really need to be able to have a good working relationship with him. So yeah. It would be a lot simpler if feelings and attraction weren't involved, but we're human and it happens.