It's difficult regardless of body shape or size. Most men, would rather get to know a person beyond appearances and pretenses. I have kids which adds to difficulties.

How about a civic group or something along the lines of a civic art group? I'm thinking in my community there's chances to get involved in writers clubs and art groups that don't cost money to join, just ongoing commitment. Which could place like minded individuals together. Over time, in getting to know people, you never know.

Lots of men are gun shy, so to speak. Who can blame them? Being burned works both ways in love.