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Originally Posted by Louemz
In most situations that bring families together, it's not so "simple" to avoid contact. Weddings, funerals, etc. often force these situations upon us. Family dynamics often complicate these situations further as certain members will avoid bringing up the past or deny it completely. In my case, after telling my mother that I was abused by my stepfather (emotional and mildly sexual) and stepgradfather (sexual) she acknowledged it but is still in a relationship with him. Everybody's situation is different and to suggest a blanket solution of cutting off all contact is frankly ignorant.
Also, nobody is stopping male members from sharing their stories. Of course abuse occurs for both genders. I don't see anybody here suggesting that it doesn't. Everyone has their own story. Respect ours and we'll respect yours.
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Thanks Louemz for your reply. I'm suggesting cutting off people out of your life who have caused a person terrible pain. I wonder what is the value of being re-traumatised every time you see someone who abused you as a child? Then having to play 'happy family' at the same time and pretend you get on well. And I agree it is not always black and white, sometimes you have to have contact re: funerals. weddings, etc. But I have read and watched on Youtube, survivors who have gone no contact due to having an unhappy life from having continual contact with an abuser.
And I am respecting what each person's story, why do you think I'm not? I guess what I meant by my earlier post is that I'd like to hear from people abused by their sisters. And also stories from male survivors. So far it seems we have only heard about abusive brothers.
PH