Well, I DID catch mine.

My suspicions did prove correct but I wonder if I would have ever found out were I not a suspicious person by nature. For me it comes from history, anxiety, depression, and a heck of a good dose of poor self esteem. But I didn't go on a detective hunt. In my case he was just really really stupid. I picked up on the clue and it wasn't too hard to see the indicators from there.

I think wondering and questioning our intuition is natural but ruminating upon it and letting it run our lives may be part of our being ill. Of course if the red flag is there, you've got to pay attention to it. But I don't think you can let it consume you to the point you can't function.

Finally we come to trust. I don't believe - no matter how much you love someone - you can ignore mistrust in a relationship. I just don't believe it can work. To do so would be the double whammy of cheating yourself.

Just my opinion