Like lemurs in a tree... I like that one

Good to see in not the only one... When my cousin's wife died I was expected to make a massive fuss and I had only even met her three times. She's lovely, absolutely wonderful as a person. But I didn't get it. She died, nothing I could do we change that. When she was diagnosed with multiple kinds of cancer I didn't think wailing and grieving would be anything that anyone should have thought of - it doesn't help her in anyway. When she died how would me being all mournful and morbid help her family? I look after her son, I help out her husband... Surely that's more useful than being all sad and sorrowful when they're trying to get on with life.