I've casually noticed something minor over the years, when people speak of their narcissistic parents. I think it might reveal something quite significant of how the child views the parent.

I've noticed many (not all) say "mother" instead of "my mother" or "father" instead of "my father" or "my dad".

I think that is significant. It shows in how high esteem this individual is held, it's almost a respectful and submissive address.

Now, please, before shouting at me, I know that many of you have overcome this initial fear and so on, after discovering your parents were narcissists, and you understand it now and so on, I just think this means of address is quite demonstrative as a residual or remnant of that time and illustrates quite well the initial respect/fear and almost awe these individuals were held in when we were kids, before we understood. It's almost like they are "larger than life" characters, that we think that even other people would call them "mother" or "father".

What I mean is you either say "my mom" or her name, e.g. "Margaret" when describing her to another person. To say "mom" to a stranger when speaking of your mom, to me is quite significant.

Sorry if I'm rambling total rubbish, it's quite hard to explain what I'm trying to say.