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Originally Posted by rcat
Blue - it took 2wks of him flipping between anger at me and desperation to regain my confidence, forgive, and forget. He made it about himself I must say - that ~ I ~ was hurting him because I wouldn't look past what he did.
But Blue, I stood firm. It was hard, I will always love him, but I stayed strong and stood up for myself. In the end, he relented.
We finally had a conversation about the situation the other nght and he finally admitted fault and what he did was wrong. He finally listened to my 'list' of offences and my interpretations of them. He finally said I was right. Whew. I wanted to hear that validation of my thinking and feelings more than an apology.
But we won't get back together I made that clear. I cannot forget, I cannot forgive
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rcat:
I can't begin to tell you how much I identify with your situation. But with me it was the other way around. And the main thing is that you had the conversation you needed to have.
She won't have that conversation with me.
She will never admit that she did anything wrong to damage our relationship. It was always my fault. I've said before that I have fessed up to my mistakes and tried the best I could to make it better. But she won't admit what she has done to hurt me ! When I hear that confession I will get a validation of my thinking and feelings. But she'll never give me that satisfaction. By making me the devil she looks like a saint. I was abandoned , humiliated and psychologically abused for YEARS . That is not wrong ?
This is something I will never forget or forgive. I can't. I've suffered enough Seems like I never did any good in all those years. However hard it may be I need to remember that there are many stages in life and I'm just now experiencing one of them.
Thanks for showing me it can be done.