{{{Jan, Meander, MyBestKids2}}} Thanks to all of you! Yes, I don't agree that one lawyer is good either and I definatey will be with her when she goes to one. She is so emotional right now that she will need someone who can pay attention to all the details. I've been staying very neutral and strong so I think I will do well to go with her.

grtrplayer - thanks! I don't believe you can trust anyone 100% and I think that in general. You never know what a person can do because we are all human and can't so different at times. I think it's just wise, for me at least, to always be as prepared as possible that things could take a different turn. I'm not hypervigilant and I wouldn't let it ruin my relationships, but most times when someone says "do you believe that" I say "yup I can believe most anything".

Tranquility