Too much of anything is bad, and as you've sadly learned, that counts for honesty as well.


Previous sexual partners, that's a need to know basis, like if someone is walking around with your child, or if you and bf need to get tested for STIs...


Other than that, we only open the door to insecurity and jealousy.


Idk what to say really, and that says alot because I have bipolar and my bf is a depressive... His depressive states have challenged me and our relationship greatly in the past, but nothing like what you are describing because they were completely separate from me.


I doubt I could stay in your shoes, because not only am I "to blame" but its not something he can just erase from his memory either.


I would in all probability walk away, to save the both of us from this nightmare you're living.


My bf and I split up for a whole year (my issues not his) and walking away was the best thing he did, even though it certainly never felt like it at the time.


But it gave me the space and time I needed to concentrate on me, it helped me see how unhealthy my behavior was within the relationship. Most of all, it motivated the hell out of me to be as mentally healthy as possible.

Best of all, when we got back together, we knew it was for keeps. The pain from our break up was not suffered in vain by either of us.



But we are not you, and you are not we, so I wont presume to know that this is what you two need.


I'm really sorry for what you're going through though, you don't deserve to suffer for being honest and trusting.